wait a minute -- I had to quote myself? maybe it is a gender thing. Here I am, a male, asking my friend (a female) for her unbiased opinion. shouldn't I just say -- who cares? I am a trumpet player?? or have I matured over the years to ask for another's unbiased opinion? oh my goodness! - what if my friend says I really suck at the trumpet?? what will I do then???