Discouragement

Discussion in 'Trumpet Discussion' started by bamajazzlady, Aug 5, 2011.

  1. veery715

    veery715 Utimate User

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    I know what a ditto is. I guess I am old:-(

    - but I do have soft, kissable lips :D
     
  2. trickg

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    A lot of good posts in this thread. To Bamajazzlady I want to tell you that you aren't alone and even us guys go through some of that.

    I think part of what's happening is that for whatever reason (although less so now than ever) trumpet has been considered a instrument played by men, whereas some instruments, such as flute and clarinet tend to be regarded as women's instruments. For people who are mired in closed-minded society "rules" regarding such things, they don't see it as normal for a woman to want to play trumpet.

    Even in my own experience, I had some opposition to my musical endeavors. I grew up in Southwest Nebraska - we're talking small towns and agriculture. My dad was the Chief of Police and who pursued very masculine themes in his life - aside from his job in law enforcement, he was a big guy physically, and he his passions revolved around firearms. For him, a rural midwesterner all his life, he had a hard time seeing any kind of productive future for me where playing trumpet and music was concerned...until I managed to wrap it up into a 10 year stint playing trumpet in the Army band program.

    My advice is that if you love it, do it! If you can't make a living doing it, so what - do it as much as you can on the side and have as much fun doing it as you can. I currently gig as a trumpet player and a drummer, which is aside from my job as an I.T. Professional, and I wouldn't have it any other way.

    As for all of those other things -

    a young lady playing a trumpet is unheard of
    No - more and more it's an instrument that is heavily pursued by women almost as much as men - we're still breaking down those old streotypes though, and that can take generations.

    if you got out there right now you wouldn't make any money.
    Who cares? I make a solid second income gigging, but I'd play even if I wasn't making money. That's just the icing on the cake. Getting to have a great time making music with people I like and respect is where it's really at.

    trumpet playing will make my lips big
    No - you may wind up with some temporary, minor swelling after a tough rehearsal or gig, but nothing permanent. Besides, even if they did get a bit bigger, some would consider that to be a good thing.

    trumpet playing will mess up my throat.
    This is the only one where there may be some validity, but it's only in extreme cases where a person has a lot of neck puffing, and even then there are exercises that can be done that decreases that.

    Keep on playing - if you like it, don't stop and don't let anyone naysay and keep you from doing it.
     
  3. vern

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    All players go through periods of discouragement. I might suggest the book "How I became a Cornetist" by Herbert Clarke.
     
  4. tedh1951

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    I love playing beside you lady trumpeters - you play beautifully - there's something different in the sound to a blokes playing, and you girls smell so nice - hey, that isn't sexist, is it? :dontknow:
     
  5. gmonady

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    It depends on how you say it... Like "You stink good," is definately NOT sexist.
     
  6. Vulgano Brother

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    If we couldn't be sexist we would forced to be dogmatic, or something even worse! Sheepish, maybe.....
     
  7. coolerdave

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    So if you want to make money as a trumpet player join a military band. Woman are in demand in the service. We actually have a female member here who played in the Navy band I think ... Flugelgirl I believe is her member ID ... shoot her a PM
    :)
     
  8. gmonady

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    Now wouldn't that be Baaaaaahed?
     
  9. Buck with a Bach

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    CD, I believe fluglegirl is still in, stationed at San Diego at the moment:oops:
     
  10. gglassmeyer

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    what a load of crap. besides women spend good money having injections to make their lips bigger so that should be a bonus!

    I've been playing for a lot of years and my lips haven't changed in size. As for damaging your throat, hardly. If anything it's a good respiratory exercise. Last year my kids put all 45 candles on my birthday cake (9" x 13" size) and I puffed them all out in one burst of air. Their astonished look was priceless! Not a sustained blow moving side to side, but instantly took them out Poof gone!

    I can see their concern about earning a living, but if you love it ... it can be done. It's far worse to spend a lifetime doing something you don't enjoy for a little financial security.
     

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