My grade 12 recital was my first recital. I worked so hard putting the jazz band together and the brass quintet. I feel I played really well and was super happy with it, and my mark on it reflected that. After the show, my (former) best-friend's mother told me "I see that your older brother got all the talen in the family." This really hurt me. Of course I did better than her son on the recital... I played a sub gig for the opera Aida in first year college. At the rehearsal the conducter just sat there and yelled and screamed at us and threatened to not pay, as well as telling some people to stop playing for various reasons. It was very demeaning, especially when I was playing the part correctly every time. I guess that is what you get for hiring a bunch of high school students to play in your million dollar production of an opera instead of hiring real pros.