Ok - overthinking may be bad. But why not just say that - it was more the disrespect that was unnecessary. I think its possible to discuss these things, and then go and just play naturally without over thinking, esp at a gig or rehearsel - just concentrate on the music. And the thinking may help certain aspects of our practice which eventually filters through into our performances by setting up good habits. Not thinking enough may allow bad habits to form in some players IMO.