Wow - those statements speak volumes. I've known people who put music, gigging and their drive to be working musicians, ahead of everything else. While they mostly succeeded with their endeavors musically, their personal lives were a mess. I might have gone further with it if I hadn't had a family, but I did have a family and was never willing to really put that on the line in my efforts to be a musician. There had to be a balance and I just wasn't willing to wreck my marriage or my kids' childhood. And what is "success" anyway when it comes to playing trumpet? How much is enough?