| Concerning traveling on the road, we seem to live in an age when people are very thoughtless about death. My wife works for the Department of Education in teaching teachers how to educate children about road safety which not only includes driving a car but also riding a bicycle. I mentioned before in other posts that Israel has lost more lives in road "accidents" than in all the wars that she has had in her 58 year history. A traffic official was asked why the warning signs along the highway read "Speeders lose licenses." Shouldn't they use the more powerful slogan, "Speeders lose lives"? He replied that the average motorist is much more anxious about possibly losing his driver's license, than about possibly losing his life. Whatever we do and especially on the road, we seem to never allow ourselves even a passing thought about death until a close one is killed. In your case, it is hoped that the truck driver that killed your son at least got charged for involuntary manslaughter.
To center one's interest on life rather than death may be a positive approach, but to pretend that death does not exist, is nothing less then sheer stupidity. The death of a close loved one does not make anybody happy. My intent of this whole thread was to show people a way of thinking on what they encounter in life and this means even death and turn these events into something positive thereby maintaining and even developing more happiness in ones life.
I do not know about your level of happiness in life but in my case, death of a family member has made my happiness in general a lot more serious and "genuine" and not so frivolous as it was before.
It is good to learn that you and your wife have turned this tragic event into something positive and long lasting.
All the best to you and your family,
Liad Bar-EL |