One thing that strikes me is ALWAYS the comparison to someone else (I tend to do that myself) -- instead of concentrating on making music at your own level.
Interesting enough this came up at community band the other night --- the NEW guy at 3rd trumpet was worried that he couldn't play as well as others (he can do a fine job) --- but in his mind, he didn't think so.
YOU know I explained to the guy one simple thing ---"if you want to impress someone, then all you have to do as a trumpet player, is learn 1 skill, and play that better, higher, faster than anyone, and AUTOMATICALLY people will think you can play the trumpet ----- I then proceeeded to whip of a 2 1/2 octave chromatic (up and down) -- low F# to high C ---at a blistering pace that completed the thing in just a few seconds----
the guy (Lee) seemd rather impressed -----------------------------and then I said "that may be the only IMPRESSIVE thing I can do on the trumpet you see ------------------------- AND AUTOMATICALLY YOU THINK I AM REALLY GOOD ---- by the way, Lee, can you let me know where we are on the long count rests???? I have trouble counting!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I said "besides that, I write down all the parts of the music when we 3rd trumpets double with the French horns, otherwise, I would always put my trumpet up whenever the 1st and 2nd trumpet players do!!! -- Lee looks at me very confused., for a moment -- but I think he understood my point !!!!!!!!!! play and be happy!!!!