Parenthood is a roller coaster as it is but balancing children and practice time can sometimes be a challenge. I am sharing some thoughts on finding time for the trumpet in the chaos of family life and how it has made music more rewarding for me. I would be grateful to hear anyone elses thoughts as well on how they manage family, work and music.
When I was a little girl the trumpet was my first love. This was a time when I was able to devote almost every free moment to trumpet playing. Fast forwarding now too the birth of my son.I was aware that my life would surely change. I was not however prepared for the challenges of balancing parenthood with my love of music. I enjoy being a mother, in fact, I love it more than life itself. It just makes balancing music and trumpet playing a bit more tricky. It has been a beautiful eye opening experience, one I can honestly say has made me into a better musician. This I am grateful for.
I have learned to appreciate my practice time more. Not always having time to practice when I want has made it more fulfilling when I do get to play. I am grateful for every minute I have towards music more than ever before. I have fallen into the 'every minute counts' approach and it has made my practice more efficient and rewarding.
Finding time to practice as a parent can be tricky indeed but not at all impossible with the proper approach. I mostly break up my practice into mini sessions since I don't always get the luxury of long periods to play. I find it has helped me build up more stamina than ever before. I welcome interruptions as an opportunity for a much needed R&R. Even if I pick up my trumpet for fifteen minutes before I start dinner and another twenty after, I always start practice feeling refreshed.
Living in the Moment
Our children truly are great teachers even when we don't always see them as such. I was watching my son play one day. He had a wide grin across his face as he played farmer with his plastic horses and other animals. He was very animated all throughout the experience which I found particularly refreshing. He was experiencing life with little judgment about anything other than just enjoying his playtime for what it was. Nothing more and nothing less. It was simplistic and beautiful.
That's it! I thought to myself. He is truly living in the moment. As an adult I have had the guilty habit of over analyzing things to the point of worry. This has affected my nerves when preforming, thus, my playing as well. From that point on I made it a personal mission to live in the moment more, especially when playing music. I now try not to over analyze every note and every breath, but to just go with the flow. Breathing in the music and the moment as if hearing for the first time.
How does everyone else balance their responsibilities with their music and how has it changed your life?