What works for me is to find guys like me who want to play anything from hymns to quintets and work on making music: chords, beauty, rhythms, crescendos & diminuendos. In short, even if it be easy hymnal stuff, tons of GREAT music lives inside. And, since the technical demands are nil, then mining the music with a few like-minded souls more than makes me want to keep at it.
I guess it's sorta a rejection of stereotypical community mentality where the notes are right but not much else. And, these adult musicians, though they don't say those words, really dig it when we make it all just right.
Lastly, I guess it's about helping others make music. I'm a bit sheephish to really try it hammer and tongs because I'm no great shakes myself. But, to give you an example, after concert band rehearsal last week, I asked 2 buddies in the section to play some chords with me because the section's pitch was wonky at times that night: G/B/D in the staff then we all move up to play B/D/G etc . . . the expressions on their face was really something. It was like "you want us to do what?" Suffice it to say, the D was low. So I says, "Joey, I know you won't like it, but play that D 1 & 3 & use your 1st or 3rd slide a tad (kinda boldly like I knew what I was doing)." Well, the chord sung. The guys I play with love to play trumpet. I'm looking for a way to move us a tad towards making beautiful sounds. Figured chords aren't a bad place to start.
Progress on that score enlivens me, and they seemed to like it too. Sorta