This topic is really just intended to share something with some folks who love playing the trumpet as well.
I am a member of two different community bands (fortunately), in two different towns. I became a member of the second band in 2003, so just about 4 years ago (I have been with the other band for 27 years). I really liked the conductor and enjoyed playing there. Well, for various reasons the conductor and us each went our separate ways. We had job applications for a new conductor in November and three applicants were chosen to come and conduct for one evening each. After this the members voted (secret ballot) on their numbers 1, 2 and 3 choices. The guy I had in last place was voted in with a great majority of votes. I didn't like the guy (from the moment I saw him; happens sometimes, right?) but decided to give him a fair chance, at least a few months. He started just after christmas.
Unrelated from the conductor thing we have lost some members in recent months for various reasons and are going to lose a few more (moving to the other side of the country, for example). So we don't have that many members to spare.
Anyway, the behavior of this new conductor is, to me, really unacceptable. Especially last night. As it happened we had three people sitting in from my other band to fill some gaps for an upcoming concert. I spoke to them this evening and they said they were appalled at what this guy was saying. At this point I am very tempted to throw in the towell and leave. I like to be treated with respect, even if I am not having my day for whatever reason. Moreover, educationally insulting people and offering only negative criticism is counter productive: it makes people feel insecure causing them to play (even) worse.
This new conductor is a trumpet player, specializing in conducting though. He is a very young guy with little experience.
This band will be 105 years old in 2008, but the way it is going I don't think it (we) will make it. Sad. Six months ago it was such a nice band.