Sometimes appreciation of a genre is something that needs work.
Not all of us can identify with 12 tone music, music with quarter tones or even Hip Hop, Rap, or "shudder" classical!
There is no requirement to "like" music, the band director, even our own kids. Often it suffices to accept the situation as a learning experience and get on with things that we like better.
I recommend a hot bath after a frustrating rehearsal, then candlelight, cheese and wine - you worked hard for it, reward yourself! Next time, you have a better attitude because the reward is waiting afterwards!