What ever anyone thinks about Rowuk, I think we all have to acknowledge that he knows what he is talking about. He puts a lot of time in here that he doesn't have to.
As far as picking on someone:
We have to be careful on here about interpreting inflections that may not be there. We can get the facts from this site but it's hard to get emotions. We can't hear yelling or whispering or up or down. It's really easy to read a line and make it harsh in our mind by adding what the Internet or written word can't.
When we ask for help, we have to believe that the person giving the advice is answering in our best interest.