Sean and his music director failed to communicate. In so doing it has become an issue in TM where decent folks are left to argue over the matter. I would recommend as the "venting" has been done that Sean go back and communicate with the music director. That is the point where the perceived hurt began and where it needs mended. Sean and his music director appear to have legitimate concerns to discuss apart from the TM discussions. In TM it seems advice has been given to Sean amid the heated discussion which has transpired here. It is now time for him to reconcile with his music director or find service elsewhere. There is really little to be gained with TM members continually arguing with each other over the matter.