I was recently the victim of some off-list private messages from someone who was briefly (and evidently no longer) a member. He refused to identify himself, said he was responsible for me getting into grad school because he decided not to attend, for his audition was (according to him) far better than anyone else's. There are sore losers all over the place. And I reiterate what others say, if you are the best player in the world but are also an abrasive asshole who no one likes, you will never work. There's a guy here in town who is one of the best musicians I've ever heard, I mean just unbelievably awesome, (not trumpet) who is so bitter, hostile, and weird that no one will hire him any more. And he sits at home and rails about lesser players getting all the work, but there's no one at fault but himself. Music unlike some other arts is impossible to do by oneself. A writer can sit in a room alone and write, a painter or sculptor can work by him or her self, but a dancer or a musician needs to work with others and if you can't play nice with the other kids, ain't nothin' gonna happen.