I was making a joke, at the expense of the rather famous trumpet players' ego. You know, like the one that says: when a trumpet player greets another, what he means is "Hi, I'm better than you!".
Don't you ever listen to another player and think "Wow, I can play better than that?" If not, maybe you're really a cornettist That's how my trumpet/cornet playing wife and I get along so well... she's really a cornettist at heart!
Guy ...tiptoeing out of the room before the storm breaks...
Do the reception!!!! Pick an old standard and solo with the band. Something ROMANTIC!!!
Like "The lady is a tramp"?
Back in on this...Your wedding day is an emotional day, particularly for your wife. She's extremely worried that something, anything, the least little thing is going to go wrong and ruin the perfect day. She's been involved stem to stern in planning it. Lose your ego and eagerness to show off or "enhance" the day. Keep the ceremony and reception dignified in a manner that the occasion requires. Think of the photos as a permanent record - that record should be timeless. Your appearance and behavior needs to be timeless in order to achieve that outcome. Leave the performances to the hired hands - they can be emotionally detached and professional. Doctors are not allowed to treat their relatives or spouses because they need emotional detachment for the exercise of sound judgment. Your risk of failure is great. You'll never know what was thought or said to others and not to you simply because you departed from convention. Your guests will be polite, on their best behavior. Spare them the burden of trying to be nice in the face of poor judgment and behavior on your part. You can still have plenty of fun.
On the flip side of that, when the bride and bride's family are more laid back and they allow for more flexibility in the day's events, no one gets too bent if something doesn't go completely according to plan, and those are the weddings that are the most fun. I'm still trying to determine if it's a general mindset that is micro-cultural to the wedding guests, or if it's simply a matter where everyone feels a bit more relaxed because they aren't being such sticklers, and therefore the attitude becomes contagious for all involved.
So, my advice to you is to not worry so much about whether the day is going to be perfect because it won't be, and if you set your sights on that goal you are likely to be disappointed. There are just too many variables.
Now, back to this playing thing - I've done many weddings where the bride, groom, bridesmaids, bridesmaids+bride, groomsmen, groomsment+groom, etc, have asked to perform with the band - usually to sing a song, but in one case the groom played guitar and actually played and sang with the band. Every time that has happened, while the end result has run the range from really bad to pretty good, it enhanced the party and was definitely something that would be remembered by the wedding party and guests.
So - maybe the ceremony isn't the best time to play something, but I think that the reception is fair game.
"What we do in life echoes in eternity"
"At my signal, unleash hell."
- Maximus Decimus Meridius
I recorded the first dances the week before I got married as a special gift to my wife. This allowed me to add my special musical touches to the wedding without really interfering with the impact of the special day.
We did also have a jam session where I played one quick tune with the band during the cocktail hour.
I guess it depends upon how confident you are. Playing my own wedding worked for me, but as I said, I'd been playing weddings for money for many years prior to doing my own.
In the end, it should probably be your bride's decision. The wedding day is traditionally "the bride's day". Once you're married, you're in charge!
How about if we make a list of songs NOT to play on your wedding day?
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